Recently I have been trying to shift my line of thinking to how I want to feel in life and what I am doing each day to reach that feeling. Sure we can all say we want to be happy but what does that mean.
Most of us made resolutions in 2017 and probably related to health and fitness. Things like the number on the scale, the number of inches or how many times you could do a pull up. I made these goals. I want to be able to do a pull up so bad! But deep down there has to be more to the goal than doing a pull up. It’s how you will feel when you hit that pull up. If you picked a goal weight why did you pick that weight. Did you pick it to be more confident. Did you pick it to feel happier. It’s a feeling we should be chasing not a number. A number will constantly distract us from the progress we are making and the feeling of achieving something you couldn’t do.
It is great to have goals. But we should shift our focus to how we will feel when we reach those milestones. Let me tell you a little story. I was told multiple times that I would never walk again. So my goal was always to walk again and prove them wrong. I worked extremely hard and I cried and I got angry and I was frustrated but the reward the first time was amazing feeling the freedom of walking again. The second time I was told I wouldn’t walk again I held on to that feeling of freedom I had the first time I learned to walk again and knew that I would achieve that again. I held that feeling of achieving something that someone said I would never do and transferred it to skating. Which was the best day of my life.
The feeling of achieving something you or someone else thought you wouldn’t do is the best feeling in the world but it’s only worth it if you are happy. So stop chasing the number on the scale or the look of the lady on the magazine. Sit down and ask yourself the tough questions. What do you have to do in order to make yourself happy? What steps can you take to have the best life? What does the best life look like? Where do you see yourself at the end of the year and how will you feel when you get there? Chase more that superficial goals and dreams dig deep make it worth while!!
Be selfish love yourself and do it all for you! Strive for the feeling of overwhelming happiness! Be happy. Don’t stop until you are happy. But don’t be hard on yourself. You are a work in progress. You get one life live it to the fullest. Never give up!
