Have you ever heard the saying “I’d rather have four quarters than one hundred pennies” Think about it.
I have always been a pleaser. I have been the person that gives and gives and no matter how the other treated me I would still give them 110% of myself. Lately, I have come to realize that this is not the way to live.
The number one person in your life is you! You need to be selfish you need to think about your happiness. We cannot give everyone 110% because there will be nothing left for ourselves. We will never be able to please everyone so why try?
Here’s the thing I have come to learn and have recently been reminded of. If we take the time to love ourselves and look after ourselves we will have the energy to give 110% to those that deserve it. When we decide to keep positive people around and people who uplift you on your journey your mindset changes and you become happier.
In life is it more important that you are happy or that everyone around you is happy? I hope you answered yourself. Do that workout, drink that glass of wine and do you!
Being able to do this all comes with letting go of the negative. Keep your circle small. Keep those around you to a minimum. If you have a few gems your life will be so full you won’t need more! The smaller your circle the less stress you have on pleasing everyone. The less stress you have on fitting everyone into your schedule and the less you have to give.
The circle you choose should be those who share the same values and joys in life that you do. The circle should support you and comfort you when you need. The circle should let you make mistakes without judgment and help you out after. The circle should always have your back and stand by you.
Life isn’t about having the most friends this isn’t a popularity contest. Life is about finding the few that will have your back and be there for you…the real you. No pretending because they have seen you at your best and have seen you at your worst! These friends may not be the friends you have known the longest but they are the ones that came in at the right time and never left!
Keep your circle small and your heart full of love. Trust me it’s not worth it and we all need to reminded that sometimes friendships move on. Everyone comes into your life for a reason some just aren’t meant to stay but those that do! They are the real deal!
Shout out to my circle! Love you girls to the moon and back!
